A female friend of the man asked him what he would do if the girl he was chasing turned around and said ok.
What would happen if she stopped running and said you could have her?
“What would you do if she opened her arms and said you could walk into them and have all she had to offer?
I am not talking about whether she will or won’t sleep with you. Not talking about her satisfying all of your sexual fantasies.
She already knows you’ll give her sex, she may feel some pressure there, but that is not the real pressure.
She wants to know what happens if she invites you into her world and to feel secure about your response. She loves you, but she isn’t going to just let herself fall in love with you again.”
He looked at the friend and asked if there was a difference between loving and being in love.
“If she still loves me how do we know she isn’t still in love with me? How do we know she isn’t trying to convince herself she isn’t in love with me to keep the distance?”
“She isn’t 20. She isn’t going to sleep with you because she loves you and thinks sex is the way to catch you. She may be in love with you still, but it doesn’t change her concerns and issues, so don’t get caught up in whether she does or doesn’t. Love isn’t your problem.
You need to know what you will do if she decides to test the water because it is probably not going to look like the past. She’ll want answers and details.”
Later that night he looked at his reflection and thought about what he had heard and realized he still knew nothing.
The future might not ever reflect any of his hopes or dreams, assuming he really understood what those were.
And if she did open her world to him, well he thought he knew what he would say and do. Would be kind of funny to be in the position in which the question became who was chasing who.